How to Neg Girls to Create Attraction

Negs are some of the most important tools in the pick-up artist’s arsenal. When first approaching a woman, the pick-up artist is looking to distinguish himself from all the hundreds of average, frustrated chumps that have hit on her in her lifetime before him by avoiding a few common pitfalls of the boy-girl dynamic. 

First of all, he needs to avoid being seen as a potential suitor for the woman, both by the woman herself and by her friends, who may otherwise try to protect her from this mysterious stranger. This is especially important when approaching sets, groups of people, cold, without any prior introduction. When perfect strangers materialize out of the blue and instantly begin hitting on the most beautiful targets in a set, they often get shot down quickly. 

Still, you don’t want to be ignored by your target. The second pitfall you want to avoid is just making friends with the group while ignoring completely the woman you are after. You want to get her attention in some way without hitting on her, but also without deliberately insulting her. If you fail to do this immediately, you are in danger of being stuffed into the little box of her friend zone – or worse.

The neg (there is a great resource at PUA Forum titled the ultimate list of negs)accomplishes both of the above tasks neatly and smoothly. Tossing her a couple of negs early into the interaction will both disqualify you in her and her friends’ eyes as a suitor and still get her attention, without looking like you are intentionally trying to insult her. Although negs are delicate things and easily misfired by amateurs, they are such a powerful tool that it is worth taking the time to thoroughly understand their intricacies and learn how to use them.

A neg can be many things as long as it accomplishes the purpose of diminishing the target’s value in a manner that flies under her radar. A neg should always come off in a way that makes it look accidental or unintentional. If it looks like you are trying to get attention or come off as clever or sarcastic, the neg will fall flat. If it looks like you are a man who is above caring about her beauty or status, attraction will begin to fester inside of her.

A neg can be an insult disguised as a compliment. “I love those shoes; you see them everywhere these days.” “Your nose is so cute, it wiggles when you talk.” You can take anything that is less than stellar about her and draw attention to it while pretending to be charmed in a friendly way. Eventually you will be able to instantly spot things about a woman that can be turned into negs and poked at in front of her friends. If you can’t find anything right off the bat, feel free to just make something up. Whether or not her nose actually wiggles when she talks or she actually has manly hands, if you bring up to her that she does she will immediately begin feeling self-conscious about it and therefore more prone to your charms.

A good way to keep your negs on target is to always have the objective of making her friends laugh. If it’s too insulting, nobody will laugh. If the circle of people you are with finds your comment hilarious at her expense, it was probably a pretty good neg.

One of the most beautiful negs is the five words, “Is she always this ________?” If she is being loud and outspoken, you can say, “Is she always this loud?” If she isn’t saying much, you ask her friends, “Is she always this shy?” No matter how she is, you can always find something about which to wonder out loud if she is always that way.

Because a neg is such a powerful tool, it should be used almost right way in nearly every interaction. Right after the opener and the false time constraint, and right before transitioning into your next gambit, is the time to use the neg. A neg can also help you choose a target if you’re finding it hard. Once you’ve negged a girl in a group, you know that she is the one you after, and you can then work to make friends with her friends while building attraction with her.