Knowing how to flirt with a girl is a timeless art. It takes a lot of confidence and skill but once you perfect your flirting technique you may never be alone again. The following tips will teach you how to flirt with a girl. When you are just beginning to perfect your flirting skills, it is important to know the best time to approach a woman. Until you have mastered the art it is best to approach an easy situation where you believe you will be well accepted.
Start by reading the woman’s body language: does she seem to want visitors? Is she standing facing the room, with her body ‘open’ (no crossed arms, etc)? Is she regarding the whole room, not averting her eyes? Remember that women who are alone or with one or two friends are most likely to appreciate being approached than women in a large group. Before you make your move test the waters by catching her eye; if she holds your gaze offer a smile. If she returns it make your way over!
If you can’t think of a good conversation starter, buying a drink is a classic way in. Always avoid cheesy pickup lines! Confidence is key to any flirting technique. Men who are sure of themselves are sure to attract women, which in turn gives them even more confidence! Remember, it doesn’t matter how you look, how big you are, or if you know how to flirt with girls; what really matters is how you present yourself.
Even if you have hardly a shred of confidence it is important to fake it. Faking it undoubtedly leads to the real thing. When you are conversing with a woman, look directly into her eyes often (but not too much where you freak her out!). Just make an effort to maintain eye contact when she is talking or when you are talking to her. Keep your body language relaxed—no nervous movements such as shifting your weight or crossing your arms. Having something to do with your hands, such as holding a drink, can be a good distraction to any nervousness.
Control your voice as well to come across as relaxed and confident. Don’t talk too fast, as fast talking is a definite giveaway for nervousness. Having a good conversation is a foundation to flirting. When you are engaged in a conversation, take a genuine interest in the women. Ask her questions and, most importantly, listen to what she has to say so you can respond in a manner that further engages her and makes her feel special. Playful teasing can go a long way in creating an attraction, but make sure it is not cruel or rude; you both should be laughing.
Compliment her sincerely, but don’t overdo it. If you seem too interested that is a definite turn off to women. And definitely don’t compliment her on anything trashy, such as her great “measurements”. When talking about yourself, draw attention to your best qualities, but don’t overdo it. Casually mention you’re out celebrating the great raise you got, or how you are running a marathon next month.
However, never ever lie about yourself, which could become a major problem if a relationship does blossom. Humor is a must; it is something that all women are attracted to. Whenever you can make her laugh, and smile often: if you’re having a good time, so is she. Playful physical contact is great for creating a spark that leads to attraction. Read her body language—if she is giving you the “green light” for touch by keeping a close distance between the two of you and facing your body, lightly brush her arm or shoulder when you are talking(now is not the time to cop a cheap feel!).
Keep in mind that dancing is a great way of flirting. If you are confident with your abilities, ask her to hit the dance floor with you. Recognizing visual and verbal cues is key to knowing when to ‘close’. If she seems genuinely attracted to you, ask for her number. Remember, practice makes perfect and you will soon be well-versed in how to flirt with a girl.